I
spent the week before my daughter's June wedding running last-minute
trips to the caterer, florist, tuxedo shop, and the church about forty
miles away.
As
happy as I was that Patsy was marrying a good Christian young man, I
felt laden with responsibilities as I watched my budget dwindle . .
So many details, so many bills, and so little time. My son Jack
was away at college, but he said he would be there to walk his younger
sister down
the aisle, taking the place of his dad who had died a few years
before. He teased Patsy, saying he'd wanted to give her away
since she was about three years old!
To save money, I gathered blossoms from several friends who had large
magnolia trees. Their luscious, creamy-white blooms and slick
green leaves would make beautiful arrangements against the rich dark
wood inside the church.
After the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding, we banked the
podium area and choir loft with magnolias. As we left just before
midnight,
I felt tired but satisfied this would be the best wedding any bride had
ever had! The music, the ceremony, the reception - and
especially the flowers - would be remembered for years.
The
big day arrived - the busiest day of my life - and while her
bridesmaids helped Patsy to dress, her fiancé Tim walked with me
to the sanctuary to do a final check. When we opened the door and
felt a
rush
of hot air, I almost fainted; and then I saw them - all the
beautiful white flowers were black. Funeral black. An electrical
storm during the night had knocked out the air conditioning system, and
on that hot summer day, the flowers had wilted and died.
I
panicked, knowing I didn't have time to drive back to our hometown,
gather more flowers, and return in time for the wedding.
Tim
turned to me. "Edna, can you get more flowers? I'll throw
away these dead ones and put fresh flowers in these arrangements."
I
mumbled, "Sure," as he be-bopped down the hall to put on his cuff
links.
Alone
in the large sanctuary, I looked up at the dark wooden beams in the
arched ceiling. "Lord," I prayed, "please help me. I don't
know anyone in this town. Help me find someone willing to give me
flowers
- in a hurry!" I scurried out praying for four things: the
blessing of white magnolias, courage to find them in an unfamiliar
yard, safety
from
any dog that may bite my leg, and a nice person who would not get out a
shotgun when I asked to cut his tree to shreds.
As
I left the church, I saw magnolia trees in the distance. I
approached a house... No dog in sight. I knocked on the door and an
older man answered. So far so good . . . No shotgun. When I
stated my plea
the
man beamed, "I'd be happy to!"
He
climbed a stepladder and cut large boughs and handed them down to me.
Minutes later, as I lifted the last armload into my car trunk, I said,
"Sir, you've made the mother of a bride happy today."
"No,
Ma'am," he said. "You don't understand what's happening here."
"What?"
I asked.
"You
see, my wife of sixty-seven years died on Monday. On Tuesday I
received friends at the funeral home, and on Wednesday . . . He
paused. I saw tears welling up in his eyes. "On Wednesday I
buried her." He looked away. "On Thursday most of my
out-of-town relatives went back home, and on Friday - yesterday - my
children left."
I
nodded.
"This
morning," he continued, "I was sitting in my den crying out loud.
I miss her so much. For the last sixteen years, as her health got
worse, she needed me. But now nobody needs me. This morning
I cried, 'Who needs an eighty-six-year-old wore-out man?
Nobody!' I began to cry louder. 'Nobody needs me!'
About that time, you knocked, and said, "Sir, I need you."
I
stood with my mouth open.
He
asked, "Are you an angel? The way the light shone around your head into
my dark living room..."
I
assured him I was no angel.
He
smiled. "Do you know what I was thinking when I handed you those
magnolias?"
"No."
"I
decided I'm needed. My flowers are needed. Why, I might
have a flower ministry! I could give them to everyone! Some
caskets at the funeral home have no flowers. People need
flowers at times like that
and
I have lots of them. They're all over the backyard! I can
give them to hospitals, churches - all sorts of places. You know what
I'm going to do? I'm going to serve the Lord until the day He
calls me home!"
I
drove back to the church, filled with wonder. On Patsy's wedding
day, if anyone had asked me to encourage someone who was hurting, I
would have said, "Forget it! It's my only daughter's wedding,
for goodness' sake! There is no way I can minister to
anyone today."
But
God found a way. Through dead flowers.
"Life
is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The
way you cope with it is what makes the difference."